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Well, anyway, after a year we had an affair. It was intense and passionate, a big mess. Jude wouldn’t talk about it. I left him to live by myself with the children. Jude showed up and told me to get into the car. We were going to New York, where Jude would play jazz and we would save our marriage.
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A quarter of America is a dramatic, tense, violent country, exploding with contradictions, full of brutal, physiological vitality, and that is the America that I have really loved and love. But a good half of it is a country of boredom, emptiness, monotony, brainless production, and brainless con…

[...] I was trying to assign Wallace to myself as a kind of coach who might be able to help me work through these straits and thus finally, narrowly escape a recurring self-centered bitteredness I was only too eager to leave behind but which I constantly felt was simply and inevitably in my blood. …

When you have notable low frustration tolerance, you decide that you simply cannot bear discomfort. In the short run giving up alcohol or almost any addiction leads to more discomfort. LFT is usually the main reason that you fail to stop your addictions. You believe it’s too much of an effort. You …

When you find yourself awfulizing about crummy reality, make a detailed plan about how you could in fact deal with it and stand it. Write out your plan. Brainstorm alternatives. Have you coped with similar or worse situations in the past? What if you were awfulizing and whining about some obnoxious…