There's a novel by Richard Ford in which the narrating protagonist says, "Women have always lightened my burdens, picked up my faltering spirits and exhilarated me with the old anything-goes feeling though anything doesn't go, of course, and never did. . . . [But now] . . . I have slipped for a moment out onto that plane where women can't help in the age-old ways. . . . Not that I've lost the old yen, just that the old yen seems suddenly defeatable by facts, the kind you can't sidestep -- the essence of a small empty moment." Frank Bascombe delivers himself of this insight on page 61 of The Sportswriter and then goes on speaking until page 375 exactly as though he hadn't. Taking in his own experience is not what this man is about.
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