Let me encourage you to turn yourself over to God. Tell Him that you know you cannot change yourself, but that you want Him to change you and make you what He wants you to be. He will do it at a pace that is just right for you, and He will use methods that would not have occurred to you. It is God’s grace that changes us, not our self-effort. All we can do is want to be what God wants us to be, repent that we are not, and put ourselves completely in His hands to make the changes that need to be made. Of course, we make an effort, but it is an effort made while depending on God, not ourselves, for victory.