I did this with Dave for years. I already felt so bad about myself that if he tried to correct me about anything, I deflected it by finding some fault with him. When you are in a relationship with someone who is hard to love because they are often angry, you should remember that their anger probably comes from the way they feel about themself. Realizing this will help you know how to pray accurately for them. It is easier to deal with difficult situations if you understand them.