I did this with Dave for years. I already felt so bad about myself that if he tried to correct me about anything, I deflected it by finding some fault with him. When you are in a relationship with someone who is hard to love because they are often angry, you should remember that their anger probably comes from the way they feel about themself. Realizing this will help you know how to pray accurately for them. It is easier to deal with difficult situations if you understand them.

I recently spent about thirty minutes with someone who is dealing with a divorce and some health issues. During the time we were together, he said at least four times, “I know I should” or “I know I shouldn’t,” and then he would tell me that he wasn’t doing it. To know what is right to do and not do it is sin (James 4:17). The best course of action this man could take is to repent for his past disobedience and make a quality decision to begin following the guidance of the Holy Spirit and obey what God is leading him to do.