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Unexpectedly, this particular birthday turned out to be a night full of romance. Friends and family sang and laughed and danced and wrote Happy Birthday messages on the giant cardboard cut-out of me as a toddler that my parents had blown up into a lifesize version. As I watched them, I saw the love…

But how do you commit to actively practising love for people and the world without getting distracted by longing for a form of it you don’t have? I think you plumb the depths of who you are until you find a purpose in life that excites you. You take all the efforts you’ve been pouring into longing,…

Do we notice these subtle opportunities for love which are woven through our daily lives? I think more often we miss them, as I nearly did. It shouldn’t take a story of loss to make me appreciate a Tuesday morning phone call with my mum, but I’ve found there are few epiphanies in life that lead to …

Are you now able to see that, whilst you still want a romantic relationship, it’s not a permanent guarantee of happiness?

That part has absolutely sunk in. There is this idea that if you could just get someone to love you then you would be released from the low rattle of unhappiness. Then you …

What advice would you give someone who hasn’t met a partner when they hoped to, and is feeling exhausted by trying to find love?

When you’re in the throes of obsession, there’s a possibility that opens up every second you give up. And it’s not giving up on ever finding a partner, or having a b…