As I watched, I wondered if every woman who ends a marriage has to comfort her husband through the pain of saying the absolute worst thing he can to a person he wants to hurt as much as he wants to love. Here they’ve located the pain, but will not admit the reason. The reason it hurts is because they have a different relationship than the one they want. Every other hurt will come from that one; there will be no relief. It’s true that if they had been less careful, less kind, less well-versed in the casual legal interventions made on language in the years since no-fault divorce became accessible, they could have hurt each other more. But they never could have hurt each other any less.