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Ferd died in 2007, his obituary describing him as “a veteran of the ‘new left’ ” and crediting him as the cowriter and coproducer of The Continuing Story of Carel and Ferd. He hosted the launch meeting for DAGMAR (Dykes and Gay Men against Racism/Repression/the Right Wing/Reagan), the first activis…

As I watched, I wondered if every woman who ends a marriage has to comfort her husband through the pain of saying the absolute worst thing he can to a person he wants to hurt as much as he wants to love. Here they’ve located the pain, but will not admit the reason. The reason it hurts is because th…

I love movies not because they’re like life but because they aren’t. The only thing that is true of movies and life is that they both have to end. I want them most when they are uncanny replicas of life—moments and experiences used like elements rather than reflections. They warp under being watche…

The more I read and watched, the more I wondered what I was doing. What did I need from these stories, or more to the point, what was I avoiding? What feeling or action did they allow me to replace? I believed everything I saw, even though I knew it wasn’t real, or even meant to be interpreted as r…

Everything ends. Perhaps I am responding to what I often consider the reassuring bluntness of describing everything that happens after what other books or lives might consider the last chapter—in this case, a divorce. I, personally, like to have reminders that I’ve changed my life before and can do…