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Not that being rejected by one’s peers is the end of the world. It hurts like hell while it’s happening and it does leave permanent scars, but it doesn’t keep a kid from being socialized (you can identify even with a group that rejects you), and I’ve noticed that many interesting people went throug…

The nurture assumption has introduced an element of phoniness into family life. It has made sincere expressions of love meaningless because they are drowned out by the obligatory, feigned expressions of love.

The idea that we can make our children turn out any way we want is an illusion. Give it up. Children are not empty canvases on which parents can paint their dreams.

Don’t worry about what the advice-givers tell you. Love your kids because kids are lovable, not because you think they need it. Enj…

People sometimes ask me, “So you mean it doesn’t matter how I treat my child?” They never ask, “So you mean it doesn’t matter how I treat my husband?” or “So you mean it doesn’t matter how I treat my wife?” And yet the situation is similar. I don’t expect that the way I act toward my husband today …

The prodigy is an interesting case; many of these kids seem to come with their own built-in motivation. If it isn’t there to begin with, I doubt a parent could provide it. In fact, often it is the child who is the prime mover and the parent who becomes the servant of the child’s consuming interest.…