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Ray is a meat-and-potatoes man project/beach-house

Act II: Enter Ray. In his own words, Ray is a meat-and-potatoes man. He’s the happy product of successful male socialization: independent, self-reliant, and able to handle his own problems. He was not like the guys Joni usually dated—struggling, self-absorbed, emotionally undependable, alcoholic ar…

—p.164 Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic Of Flesh and Fantasy: In the Sanctuary of the Erotic Mind We Find a Direct Route to Pleasure (152) by Esther Perel
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an atmosphere where desire might unfurl

What Stephanie fails to see is that behind Warren’s nagging insistence is a yearning to be intimate with his wife. For him, sex is a prelude to intimacy, a pathway to emotional vulnerability. She responds to him as if he were one more needy child. She doesn’t realize that this is not just for him b…

—p.136 Parenthood: When Three Threatens Two (125) by Esther Perel
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the wounds inflicted by the minutes and hours of time

We are indeed a nation that prides itself on efficiency. But here’s the catch: eroticism is inefficient. It loves to squander time and resources. As Adam Phillips wryly notes, “In our erotic life work does not work . . . trying is always trying too hard. Eroticism is an imaginative act, and you can…

—p.75 Can Do! The Protestant Work Ethic Takes On the Degradation of Desire (71) by Esther Perel
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a priceless smile or a well-timed wink

So much of masculine identity is predicated on self-control and invulnerability. Yet I have also observed that these very restrictions lead many men to other venues of self-expression. In the absence of a more developed verbal narrative of the self, the body becomes a vital language, a conduit for …

—p.43 The Pitfalls Of Modern Intimacy: Talk Is Not the Only Avenue to Closeness (38) by Esther Perel
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love implied responsibility and obligation

For John, intimacy harbors a threat of entrapment. He grew up in a home with an alcoholic, abusive father. He can’t remember a time when he wasn’t acutely attuned to both his father’s moods and his mother’s sadness. As a young boy he was recruited to be his mother’s emotional caretaker, and to alle…

—p.27 More Intimacy, Less Sex: Love Seeks Closeness, but Desire Needs Distance (19) by Esther Perel