The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

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Perel, E. (2018). The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Harper Paperbacks.

Harper Paperbacks, 2018. 352 pages. Paperback. 9780062322593

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immaturities we should have outgrown

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Our romantic ideals are too entangled with the be…

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to forgive is to set a prisoner free

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“Have you forgiven her?” I ask him. “Yes,” he rep…

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sexuality is the sanctioned language

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Sexuality is the sanctioned language through whic…

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erotic silence

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“Erotic silence” is the term psychotherapist and …

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what is activated in the affair is her will

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In other words, since time immemorial, women have…

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The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel March 5, 2025 - March 6, 2025 (women-and-their-dilemmas)

1. A New Conversation About Marriage and Infidelity

2. Defining Infidelity: Is Chatting Cheating?

3. Affairs Are Not What They Used to Be

4. Why Betrayal Hurts So Much: Death by a Thousand Cuts

5. Little Shop of Horrors: Do Some Affairs Hurt More than Others?

6. Jealousy: The Spark of Eros

7. Self-Blame or Vengeance: The Dagger Cuts Both Ways

8. To Tell or Not to Tell?: The Politics of Secrecy and Revelation

9. Even Happy People Cheat: Mining the Meanings of Affairs

10. An Antidote to Deadness: The Lure of the Forbidden

11. Is Sex Ever Just Sex?: The Emotional Economics of Adultery

12. The Mother of All Betrayals? Affairs Among Other Marital Misdemeanors

13. The Lover’s Dilemma: Conversations with the Other Woman

14. Monogamy and Its Discontents: Rethinking Marriage

15. After the Storm: The Legacy of an Affair

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity
by Esther Perel

March 5, 2025 - March 6, 2025 (women-and-their-dilemmas)