When you find yourself awfulizing about crummy reality, make a detailed plan about how you could in fact deal with it and stand it. Write out your plan. Brainstorm alternatives. Have you coped with similar or worse situations in the past? What if you were awfulizing and whining about some obnoxious event, and we offered you a million dollars in cash, tax free, to come up with a sensible plan to cope with the crummy situation? Could you? Would you? Almost certainly, you would. The main reason why you may often refuse to cope with lousy realities is that you deeply believe that you should not have to do so. Good luck on this planet with that attitude!