Everyone thinks, you lose weight, you are going to have a ton of sex. Yes, the trainer said, your sex drive spikes. But there’s something else that happens that’s basically the inverse. It’s almost an epidemic.

He said he can see it coming immediately. For the women especially. They lose all this weight. Their husbands are either jealous or nonplussed. The woman gets all dolled up for the one date night she manages to scrounge out of the man. He forgets to tell her she looks beautiful. Monday, she goes to the gym. Five guys are like, You look great! Holy shit. Amanda. You are smoking.

You can almost do it by the numbers. You lose twenty pounds, you get ten compliments a week, that’s nine more than your partner has given you in a month. It’s the high-five moments from other people that break down the relationship. The trainer says he could have a checklist and predict the day the woman decides to leave.